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3 Reasons Why Hypergamy Is Life-Changing

Hypergamy is more than just a spoiled lifestyle. It can change you mentally, spiritually, and economically. Read on to find out how!

By: N'diah Love
By: N'diah Love

Read Time: 2 Minutes

Ladies, hypergamy is not a new concept. In fact, It’s quite ancient. Socially and economically, hypergamy is the act of “marrying up” or marrying someone from a class or caste superior to your own. It is a historical phenomenon that has existed since the idea of class was conceived in the late 1800s. Evolutionarily though, it is an even older concept. It has always been in the female’s best interest to mate with a male that could help her produce offspring that were the most likely to survive.

As we evolved from estrus (forced ovulation) to menstruation (concealed ovulation), we were then able to choose a male that could produce healthy offspring; moreover, he could help the mother and her children survive and thrive. Many cultures still practice hypergamy; however, American Women, most specifically Black American women, are the least likely to engage in hypergamy. Why? Well, I won’t be covering that in this article. BUT, read on to discover why hypergamy is so life-changing.



Masculinity and Femininity are concepts that are more complex than just personality traits (and gender); however, for the sake of this article, I will be simplifying these concepts to be as concise as possible.

Hypergamy Inspires Masculinity

Healthy masculinity is associated with action, strength, protection, and facilitation while blooming femininity is associated with intuition, creativity, reception, and fluidity. Due to the nature of hypergamy, it naturally calls for a masculine and feminine space, each allowing the other to exist in a complementary way due to the Law of Polarity.

When you choose to only engage in hypergamous relationships, you set the standard for your masculine to be at his best: a protector and a provider. And in a culture where we experience toxic masculinity in the form of predatory behavior and violence on a regular basis, setting the standard for healthy masculinity could quite literally save your life.  

Hypergamy Teaches You Soft Power

Ahh, soft power. My favorite. Also known as persuasion, attraction, or influence. Although it is typically associated with politics, it is an essential skill to have in your arsenal. We live in a world that is dominated by hard power (punishments and rewards). Hard power, by nature, is masculine. We (femmes), will never win a game where we do not make the rules. So, what must we do? We must change the game completely. Using the power of attraction, persuasion, and influence will always give you an upper hand in your dealings with men. Living a hypergamous lifestyle can teach you how to navigate masculinity and precisely get what you want out of your relationships, and your life in general.


Without Hypergamy, The Odds Aren’t In Your Favor.

What do I mean by this? Well, babe, it’s no secret that men benefit the most from marriage. When men marry women, they gain years onto their lives, while the women (who stay married), typically lose years. Unfair, isn’t it? Well I say, you might as well marry someone who will provide the lifestyle you desire, while securing a future for your offspring. If not, you’re losing years off of your life for nothing! 🤷‍♀️

I have a million more reasons why hypergamy is so incredibly beneficial; these are just a few. If you’re interested in living a hypergamous lifestyle, consider these reasons and follow us on Insta @letssweettalk. 

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