How I Recharged My Low Sex Drive
Our five senses are powerful; I think we should use them more.
By: Iman Josey
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- ♡ Sex & Love
Read Time: 4 Minutes
I was convinced that I would always struggle with having a low sex drive. Furthermore, I knew the cause was likely psychological because it wasn’t always that way. So one day, I sat down with my girl, and after a few laughs and glasses of wine, I told her about it. She offered me advice that not only recharged my sex drive but matured me intimately. Her advice was for me to tune into my sensuality and give my sexuality a break.
Sex aside, discovering pleasure through your five senses is like rolling around in a field of daisies with the sunlight shining through the clouds. Sensuality, not to be confused with sexuality, is the devotion of pleasure to the senses— sound, sight, smell, taste, and touch. It opens a powerful gateway to experiencing our raw emotions. Specifically, indulging in sensuality allowed me to feel deeply connected to myself and the world around me.
To connect with your sensuality, you must first connect with your surroundings and whole self. This could mean healing, slowing down, or creating new practices that boost your endorphins. While sensuality may often be confused with sexuality, they are distinctively different. Sensual experiences do not have to lead to sexual ones. However, getting in tune with your sensuality can improve or heighten your sexual experiences. Without intentionally savoring sensations in our bodies, we can fall into the habit of using our bodies as goal-oriented instruments—a sexually-repressive practice that can cause a disconnect from the enjoyment of sex
Sexuality includes feeling aroused, turned on, horny, and having a physical desire for sexual stimulation. However, many people neglect and overlook the feelings associated with sex. Just imagine how many women have sex without any sense of arousal.
Knowing what I know now, it is easy to lose the organic feel of your sexuality, and getting connected with your sensuality can help you regain the sensations sex should bring. If you struggle with sexual enjoyment, try connecting with your senses regularly and intentionally.
Below you can find some ways to explore your senses. Surprisingly the list contains actions we do daily, but make it a goal to do these actions thoughtfully.
Sound
- Listen to a guided meditation.
- Listen to music from different cultures.
- Play an orchestra soundtrack.
- Play an instrument and appreciate the sounds.
- Sit in silence and enjoy the sounds around you.
- Play a song you love and sing along.
Sight
- Paint freely without criticism.
- Sit outside and watch nature or the cars drive by.
- Move around the light fixtures or adjust the brightness in your home
- Sit at the cafe and people-watch.
- Watch your children or pets play.
- Watch a sunrise or sunset.
Smell
- Light your favorite candles.
- Put essential oils in a diffuser.
- Enjoy a bubble bath with your favorite scents (oils, herbs, salts).
- Cook with aromatic herbs and spices.
- Go to a coffee shop and enjoy the smells.
- Create a scent diary and journal how your favorite scents make you feel.
- Create a simmer pot using recipes you find, or create your own.
Taste
- Have warm tea.
- Eat exotic fruit and enjoy the experience.
- Visit a restaurant with cuisine not native to your own.
- Eat freshly baked desserts.
- Have your partner feed you.
- Have freshly juiced shots (pineapple, ginger, lemon).
- Finger paint with food and lick your fingers. (Touch, taste, and sight)
Touch
- Get your partner to give you a massage using oils.
- Sit in the sun and enjoy how it feels on your skin.
- Go to a yoga class.
- Caress yourself slowly and notice which areas spark your most.
- Finger Paint.
- Wear silky garments.
- Make biscuits from scratch (very handsy activity, plus with will smell and taste good)
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